Topic: Relationship between parents, kids, and caregiver.


Relationship is a connection between two or more people or things. It is also the state of being related to something else. In developing an idea of a valuable caring relationship between children, parents, and caregivers we need to distinguish
Each other as a particular not interchangeable person and it requires reciprocity. This does not mean that children need to be able to articulate their interests, or that they need to be self-reflectively aware of their parents' interests or personhood. Instead, parents and children manifest their understanding of one another as unique, irreplaceable individuals, with identifiable needs and interests through their interactions with one another.
In developing an account of valuable caring relationships between children and parents in this essay, I thought of ideas of care or love broadly conceived .thinking about care or love in friendship. I do not focus only on what children need and their parents should give. Instead, I aim to understand what makes relationships between children and parents ethically valuable. Suggests that care ethics might be thought or add to the moral terrain by "treating relationships as having normative content.
To give an account of caring relationships between children and their caregivers, we need to distinguish among caring about, taking care of, care giving, care receiving, and being in a caring relationship. We can care about people, ideas, and things, without assuming responsibility for them, entering into a relationship with them, or providing care for them although we may doubt the legitimacy of the caring if opportunities to do these things consistently arise without being acted upon. Both taking care of and caring for assume some responsibility for the parental care.
I have distinguished between taking care of and care giving in that taking care of "involves assuming responsibility for what you care about but may involve delegating the tasks involved in care giving to another." Care giving is more personal than taking care of someone need be. In doing it, "the caregiver must be ready to revise her care giving strategy according to moment-by-moment or day-by-day conditions". We frequently conceive of care giving as involving physical care, but it could be direct and intimate without primarily meeting the cared for children's basic physical needs.
A caring relationship requires both parties to be aware of each other as a particular not interchangeable person, to be aware of being in relation, and it requires some reciprocity. In another scene, a caring attitude focuses on attitudes rather than relationships requires empathy, and "involves respect for the wishes of or for what is distinctive about the other". Caring relationships require that time and attention, are devoted to establishing intimacy, for without those we will not know what is distinctive about the other.
Since the requirements of a caring relationship go beyond the fact that care has been given, we may take care of somebody by assuming the responsibility of ensuring that someone is found to meet their needs, provide direct care for children, or acknowledge care received, all without being in a caring relationship.
In summary, a caring relationship requires that both parties are aware of one another as particular individuals, that some time is spent together in order to develop that awareness and that each person is willing to be vulnerable enough to disclose their particular characteristics to the other. Caring relationships also involve some reciprocity. Does this mean they can only occur between people who are equals and equally devoted to meeting one another's needs? This means that both argue in favor of recognizing that reciprocity need not be symmetrical or between equals. A young person, who does not understand and discuss the content of having children should not get involve with having children because it requires mutual respect and mutual recognition, and that each party must "acknowledge that the others are ends in themselves and not means only". Considers ultimately rejects the suggestion that "each partner must pay attention to each other, and to the child or children needs” Because young children are limited in their ability to discuss needs and ideas in ways that agree. Children and their parents need to be aware of one another's interests, but this does not mean that children need to be able to articulate their needs. To conclude children are very precious to us, we need to give them all necessary attentions and satifitions.